Nursing home or not?
The decision whether to put your loved ones into a nursing home is a particularly difficult one to make. It is dependent on a wide number of things and ultimately it should be a joint decision between yourselves and those who will be living in the home. This is due to the fact that if someone is forced into a home, and they are very unhappy, they are less likely to reach out to those who put them there. Some of the elderly may not have much of a choice in the matter and may be too ill to be cared for at home. For those, a nursing home is the only option as they will have the medical supplies hire that is needed to hire all the equipment for your loved one. If you search for a home together, you are far more likely to make them happy.
Some of the smaller details of everyday life becoming increasingly difficult when you are older and not all of these they will be willing to discuss with you. For example incontinence is an issue many of the elderly have to deal with but not something they will appreciate talking about. It may be better for you to bring up awkward subjects such as adult incontinence underwear to help them to understand it is ok to talk about these things.
It is important to try and make outings possible by working around the issues and accommodating any disability they may have. Sometimes, it is just nice to get out of that surgery seating and into a theater seat or even a park bench to enjoy the sunshine.